Violent outbursts in children can be difficult to handle. This article offers tips to help parents manage aggressive behavior in preschoolers.
In the article "Understanding Violent Behavior in Children and Adolescence," The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (ASCAP) says, "Children as young as preschoolers can show violent behavior." They go on to say, "Violent behavior in a child at any age always needs to be taken seriously."
Children who exhibit aggressive behavior intend to deliberately hurt others. Aggression in preschoolers can manifest in a number of ways including:
hitting
kicking
spitting
biting
pushing
throwing objects
destroying public or personal property
Underlying Causes of Aggressive Behavior in Children
There can be a number of underlying issues that can cause aggressive behavior in preschoolers including:
low self esteem
limited communication or problem solving skills
frustration
stress
exposure to violence in the home or community
emotional problems
abuse
spending time with peers who are aggressive
temperament
Handling Violent Outbursts in Children
Since children tend to repeat behaviors that are reinforced, it is important for you to provide them with consistent, positive attention for behaviors that are acceptable.
Remove children from the stimulant that triggers violent outbursts.
Your surroundings can set the tone for calm or chaos. You should do everything possible to minimize the stress levels in your immediate environment.
Be selective about the types of television programs that you let your children watch. Don’t let them view television shows that display violence as humorous or as a way to deal with problems.
Acknowledge your preschooler’s feelings while setting boundaries. Position yourself so that you can maintain eye contact with your child and find ways to help him verbalize his anger. Let him know that it’s okay that he’s angry but hurting others in not acceptable behavior. You can say, "I understand that you’re angry but I expect you to (state the boundary)."
Make sure that your preschool children have opportunities to expend excess energy by getting enough physical activity each day.
In Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age Five, the American Academy of Pediatrics says, "One of the best ways to teach your child nonviolence is to control your own temper. If you express your anger in quiet, peaceful ways, he’ll probably follow your example."
If you know that your preschooler is prone to frequent aggressive outbursts, you should always be prepared to avert trouble by sticking close by when he is playing with other children.
If you feel your preschooler’s aggressive behavior is a result of an underlying emotional issue, contact his doctor immediately.
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I totally agree with your advice on how to
enable young children not to fall into aggressiveness. Indeed, as you say
it seems to me very important that parents control their own temper and
express their anger in quiet. Even if in facts, all the parents who sustain
aggressiveness of their children know how difficult it is to express its
disagreement calmly when they start to scream. Especially when they lose
their temper for no particular reason. As parents, we achieve to keep
quiet once, twice, ten times until we crack, starting to scream in order to
tell our kids… to stop screaming right now ! Silly but human, is not it ?
Which makes me believe that an adult finally reacts just like a
child, like the child he was. What I mean is that we seem sometimes more
influenced by their behaviour than they are by ours. Do not you think ? Of
course, that does not mean that we should not try to remain as calm as
possible with our children. Kind regards Frederic Georges, from
France