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» Katie17 - In response to goodbyeheart's message.

» goodbyeheart - Difficult Daughter in Law

Would someone PLEASE start a website where MIL's can talk openly about their dire situations with their DIL's?
There are many sites where the DIL's can talk about their MIL's like they are nothing but rats roaming the streets. There is nowhere for MIL's to turn (except this one).

It would be a great benefit to all of us.

The disgusting things that are said about MIL's on the site: www.motherinlawstories.com are without a doubt, beyond the pale.

PLEASE! SOMEONE! START A SITE WHERE WE CAN UNDERSTAND THE NEW GENERATION OF GIRLS. FAMILY TO THEM IS THEIR FRIENDS OR HER FAMILY, NOT HIS FAMILY

I'm a DIL and believe me I not a hard person to get along with. My MIL well she is another story. She used to try to control my life and overstep my boundaries. She would tell me that my house was 'dirty' when it was just dust in unseen areas. She ruined my homecoming with my first child because she told me my house was 'dirty'. She is a housework fanatic. She used to tell me that I should put my children in terry nappies/diapers becasue they were cheaper. She burst into my home one morning to scream and shout abuse at me. She yelled at me that I think more of my mother that I do of her. Well that is normal, who would'nt think more of their own mother that they do of their MIL. My sister has a wonderful MIL because her MIL was nasty to her and she vowed never to be nasty to her DIL. Even my sister who loves her MIL, she still thinks more of our mother than she does of her MIL. I'm a regular visitor to the site you mentioned and rest assured these DIL's are not usually nasty people. It is their MIL's who have the problem. I would have given anything to have a normal relationship with my MIL who does not interfere in my marriage, does not come around unannounced and does not tell me how to run my life. My own parents respect my adult life and do not tell me how to run my home and raise my kids, as I result myself and my husband have a healthy relationship with them.

-- posted by Katie17

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» Grandma07 - In response to goodbyeheart's message.

In response to In response to goodbyeheart's message. posted by Katie17:
Being an in-law - on either side of the fence can be a difficult transition, especially in this day and age when we travel more and are marrying outside of our cultures, socio-economic strata and far, far beyond the lines which used to keep us seperated into seemingly neat, tidy little bundles!
What to do then with a generation of children marrying into ours - and even if our spoken language is the same - we suffer great communication challenges.
As the older generation, I think we owe it to ourselves to research this new generation as we would investigate a different country.
At issue for me is the basic loss of manners and courtesy.
I believe you are right - there ought to be a group!
Please check on gather.com for like-minded MILs who just want the best for their entire family!
Best of wishes!

-- posted by Grandma07

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